Unabridged Audiobook
This book has so much great advice for people who have struggled with going through life being too nice and being people pleasers. It’s a long read with a lot to process but it is definitely worth it!
The author’s personal experience with being too nice and his anecdotes about his efforts to change being nice are very helpful and relatable. The exercises he gives make a huge difference. As he points out, if you just read the book without doing the work it’s not gonna make you stop putting other’s needs before your needs. I’ve learned a tremendous amount from this book and have made significant changes in how I relate to people, no longer believing I’m responsible for their happiness while they are only interested in making themselves happy.
The book’s working! Finally managing to shed my people pleasing tendencies! You’re getting on my nerves (just practicing!). A good read - recommended for all you rotters out there who need to join me in not being nice any more when it doesn’t serve us. (I do actually still love you all so maybe it’s not started working yet),
This book gave me the confidence to be more authentic while still being positive; to express myself while still respecting others, and that definitely created less awkward situations for me. I change the subject and end conversations when I want now and I do it all without feeling unnecessary guilt. It taught me not to replay conversations in my head wondering if I said something I shouldn't have said(a sign you're a people pleaser), as well as many other things.
This book was exactly what i needed, and I continue to go back to it. I read on kindle first which is probably good because the length was less intimidating. But I bought the paperback So I could go back through the chapters and reread hearts that I need. I will continue to go back to this book and review the concepts and exercises. Two help develop my ability to be not nice. I don't mind the repetition and informal tone; it made it fun to read and helps the concepts stick.
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